Some people should have protected you and validated your feelings but they didn’t. You may have blamed yourself for any of these but remember that you were a child that went through some heavy things. The unresolved traumas show up as problematic behavior, dysfunctional patterns, poor conflict resolution skills, poor emotional regulation, and unhealthy relationships. As children we did not have the right emotional coping abilities to process the pain, so for us to survive, we learned to live with it. We carried the pain from these distressing events into our adulthood.

Trauma comes in many forms abandonment/neglect, abuse, accidents, bullying, instability, divorce/separation, parents with chronic illnesses, death, violence, etc.

Some of us experienced childhood trauma that deeply wounded us. There’s also a part of you that solves problems and emotional overwhelm like the child you once were. You are free-spirited, happy, and creative in this element. There’s a side to you that comes out to play when you feel safe and cared for. This inner child carries all the memories, beliefs, emotions, pain, hopes, and dreams you had as you were growing up. Their curiosity about the world they’re discovering, their wonder and awe of the most mundane things, their innocence, their unfiltered honesty, and their little joys are so lovely.Ī part of your subconscious experiences life as a child.

Parent yourself again by yong kang chan